Monthly Archives: July 2014

Five Months Later

February 20th my Daddy called an ambulance to take Mia to the hospital. Her flu symptoms were just too bad, and he was just too sick, to go through standard doctor or urgent care routes.

Almost exactly five months to the day later, July 18th, I’m going to be bringing Mia home for the first time.

I wrote about so much of it in the first couple of months. I don’t know how I did it, how I found the time even. But I’m so glad I did. The facts have gotten so fuzzy… the raw feelings and emotions have started to become ever so faded…

The last post I wrote about Mia and the home-health-situation was April 26th. It was the Brace Yourself: Good News is Coming, and it covered Mia waking up, talking, and being moved back to Kindred to be weened off of her ventilator.

A LOT has happened since then. The highlights:

  • Mia spent six weeks at Kindred and improved faster than we ever could have imagined: Within weeks she was completely off of her ventilator, her trach was removed, she started eating real food again, and she started medication to help her handle anxiety.
  • We were kicked out of Kindred and transferred to the WORST rehab and health center on the planet: Because Mia was on isolation when her Kindred-expiration date came, we were sent to Rockledge Health and Rehab at the last minute. It was HELL. That link is my Google review and it says it all. The craziest part is that I was with her for the move from Kindred on a Monday, then went to Jupiter to trade vehicles with Corey after work two days later on a Tuesday, which I followed-up with the Cher concert on Friday, and by Saturday I was back in Merritt Island to oversee her move out of that hellhole. No words for the exhaustion…
  • Our transfer to Health Center of Merritt Island happened, and the rehab got REAL: When Mia left Kindred on May 12th, she was juuuust starting to be able to use her hands with enough dexterity to feed herself. When she got to HCMI on the 17th, she was lifting her arms really well but couldn’t reach above or behind her head. Only one month later, on June 20th, she walked 50 feet with a walker.
  • We spent Daddy’s birthday together as a family: This was the first time all four of us had been together talking, laughing, and STANDING, in 5 years. It was an incredibly hard day for me but we were together and healthy, and that helped.
  • And since HCMI is only 5 minutes from Daddy and Mia’s house, I started a consistent schedule commuting to and from Merritt Island: For the last two months I’ve spent two or three nights a week in Merritt Island, going after work to check on the house, get mail, hang out with Mia and talk, do her laundry, and make sure things were still up and running.I would love to say this was easy-breezy, but it meant a LOT of time doing laundry, eating Publix subs, buying and exchanging clothing and shoes for Mia to wear during rehab, making questionable changes to Daddy’s cellphone plan to get Mia access to Facebook in rehab, and one special night casing the house at 10pm to find out why the waterlines had been shut down (long, long story).

And now, here we are five months since this all started, and Mia is coming home.

She can walk so very well now, still using a walker but it won’t be much time before she can ditch it. And emotionally she’s in amazing shape. We’re still grieving over Daddy, of course, but she has a very different outlook on life now and it’s wonderful.

So Friday we start a new chapter, together once again. I’m honestly terrified. I don’t know how I will be able to leave her in the house alone, not to mention let her drive! And I have no idea how she will react to being in the house with Daddy’s ashes, or how she’ll be in the house without him.

I’ll be with her the first week out of rehab – June 18th through 22nd. After that, Corey should be back up for two weeks and then Cari will be back down for one week. And then who knows?

Wish us luck!

All of us, standing together, on Daddy's birthday.

All of us, standing together, on Daddy’s birthday.

One of my favorite Daddy-Facebook-interactions

A couple of years ago, during peak political season, Daddy met Vince, Uncle Dan, Uncle Bob, and myself at Rusty’s in Port Canaveral.

(If you didn’t know, Daddy and I were on TOTAL opposite ends of the political spectrum. Our political Facebook arguments are seriously legendary and could end up 30 comments deep with multiple factcheck.org and snopes.com references.)

He didn’t know how to work his fancy smartphone but he wanted a picture of us on it, so I handed it to Vince who took the photo and then I uploaded it to Facebook for Daddy.

I captioned it for him “Me and my socialist daughter. I love her.”

And then the comments poured in and every time I look back on them, I LOL a bit, and then feel super loved.

That last comment.

That last comment.

My Daddy loved me and was proud of me. I have it in writing.

PaintNite DateNite with Cody!

(Another pre-Daddy draft finally gets finished….)

Last Christmas I got Cody two present: One functional (a gift card) and another fun: PaintNite Date Night with ME!!!!

You probably know the whole concept of PaintNite but I think each one is a little different. This one is run by local artists, hosted at various local bars, (so constantly roaming) and highly encourages drinking while painting. Everyone works on the same piece, which is different per class, and each painting is gauged on level of difficulty.

Shortly after I gave Cody his Christmas card we got on the phone and started looking at which paintings we wanted to try out – after a bit of back and forth, we nailed down a date in February that looked REALLY cool called “Raining Paint.” The painting had a drip-like style that looked like multi-colored rain coming down on two little birds who were perched on a wire with umbrellas. It looked freakin’ neat, super fun, and hopefully easy.

Our event was held at Graffiti Junction in College Park and upon arrival we did what we do best: Pony up to the bar, order martinis, and take a selfie.

Let the games begin!

Let the games begin!

Then we got smocked up and took a pre-painting selfie.

Looking cute and ready to paint!

I seriously love taking photos with this man.

We were sitting on the backside of the room so we didn’t have a super great view of the painting we were there to mimic, but we had blank canvases, high hopes, and globs of paint on a paper plate.

Oh, and mimisoa’s. We were ordering doubles and throwing DOWN!

The painting instruction started and our teacher was a super cute blonde who encouraged us to keep drinking – and that was a good thing. She had an assistant who kept us flush in the core colors of our painting and drinks. And we had cute neighbors that were there on a “real” date nite.

Which leads me to my number one observation – PaintNite is for two audiences: Groups of Girls, and Early Dating Couples. Cody and I are neither of those things, so of course we were having a blast with our people-watching and inadvertent-evesdropping.

At first, our paintings started out REALLY well with an awesome base for rainy day clouds. Cody actually helped me craft my cloudy background with lots of texture and depth.

Cody paints clouds.

Cody paints clouds.

And then….

Then….

Then we started painting the “rain.”

And that’s when my pretty clouds turned into the ugliest thing I’ve ever made.

Because instead of the paint truly dripping down the canvas (which we thought would be the case), we just kind of… painting a wavey line on the canvas.

And then we added lots of multi-colored poofs and clouds at the top…

Followed by the wire for the two birds…

And the birds? Those were two circles painted, filled in, and given a little triangle beak.

I’m not sayin’ mine is ugly. I’m just sayin’… okay yeah it’s really ugly.

Rainy Bird Painting

Mine is on the left. Cody’s is on the right. Yeah no.

I don’t know why mine came out so dark and dreary. I remember not really liking the yellow paint in my clouds. But otherwise, I don’t know what happened!

But Cody’s is cute, right?! 🙂

Either way – I am proudly hanging my monstrosity in my house, right next to my closet, in public. And most importantly – We had a FANTASTIC time, and I would absolutely go again.

Go PaintNite Orlando!

Go PaintNite Orlando!